Dude, that makes no sense and that's why even Christians admit their religion is dying and thousands of churches close every year.
If you simply throw up your hands after a tragedy and say your loved one is in a better place yet have NO rational basis to do so you might as well say they are with Hades or Mithras!
That is my biggest bone to pick with Christians. This delusional idea that somehow their religion is more real than any other religion or god! ANYTHING you find fake about Dionysis or Horus applies equally to Jesus!
I don't disagree with you on your last point. Part of the reason I'm no longer a Christian is because of the, I don't know the word...pushiness, I guess, of the religion as a whole.
But I know plenty of Christians and I'm just trying to explain to you at least where they are coming from. I wouldn't so much call it 'throwing their hands up,' but if you believe that there's an afterlife where there is no pain, only happiness and love, wouldn't you feel like your loved one is in a better place? Truth be told, none of us know exactly what happens once our lights are turned out for good. Atheists, Christians, Scientists...no one knows. So I choose not to judge Christians for thinking that way, because it gets them by.
I also don't think that Christians just sit there as if they're okay with sickness and death and tragedy. But they choose to look at it in a different light than most folk. And that's their prerogative and I'm okay with it. Just as I'm okay with you not believing in a God. Like I said earlier, whatever we all beleive personally works for all of us as individuals, and that should be okay.
Personally, I believe that people telling me WHAT to believe is the same as someone else telling me WHAT NOT to believe. You might be right. They might be right. I might be right. Or Steve Urkel might be the one true God. Who knows?